Funny nuts

     Why do some people can't inspire great loves? Some just live a life of medium, warm, safe loves. I hear a lot of people saying "I am marrying the person i always envisioned myself with" or "He's my best friend" or " He's all i ever wanted" (Yes i do speak more with girls, do you know a lot of guys talking about marriage?). This is the question, if you end up with what you always wanted, how can you know that that is what is right for you? Of course you need some criteria to chose someone. But to want a safe love won't you be passing on a great love? Can you have it be warm and nice and still be great? It can be a great story, but i don't think it can be a great love. 

     You get what you bet. You bet big, you lose big or you win big, you can't bet small and get great. That's not how it works.

     Some people are safe, they can't really have great, so should they stop expecting something amazing? I like the philosophy of "expect nothing" it always makes you willing to try new things, and to be surprised, some times you get a bad nut, others you get a hilarious nut, and it's all alright.

     Why do you chose who you chose? I had a teacher that said "every woman needs four different man, one for friendship, another to make her laugh, another to make her think and another to assure a more primal need". Someone that can do all those things for you is the "full package". We have all been there, with someone that embodies one, two, maybe three of those qualities. If you find someone that makes it all work for you, hold on, it's a keeper.

     I have chosen nuts because of all of those qualities, the kindness on someone is very important, and i had that, a friendship type of relation, he was a really good person, so it was something nice and safe and warm, a great story, never a great love. Picked another nut because of looks, it's very hard to admit that that is why i did it, now that i look back i find him hollow of any other quality, so i guess i'm not that immune. Mind and intelligence nuts are the hardest to understand that they are not right for you, you envision challenges forever and some people like that, to live in a constant debate, and intellectual stimulation. But no amount of intellectual debates can replace good nature and kindness. You can debate until the cows come home but that won't keep you warm at night. Funny nuts are the best, they make you laugh and make life easier, but can you be with someone that just makes you laugh all the time? Maybe you need something more.

You are not supposed to commit to a person that just makes one, two or three of this things work for you, you need all the parts. Do you get them? Not always. But i would not change it for any of my nuts, their existence is justified by themselves, and it's just warm up to the main event.